How to win friends and influence

Indeed it has, and to a certain extent, should I remember it, and I know I most certainly will will benefit me in the future. While I haven't had the moment to use these skills listed here, I applaud Carnegie for his optimistic and thought provoking self-help guide. His narration is brilliant and the stories included are inspirational. The sections are also nicely divided with witty titles and a summary of the skills learnt in each chapter.

How to win friends and influence

Apr 02, Caroline rated it it was ok This book had a profound effect on me, however, of the negative variety. It did give me pointers on how to actually break out of my shell and "win friends" but in the long term, it did way more harm than good. Not the book per se, but my choice to follow the advice given there.

The book basically tells you to be agreeable to everybody, find something to honestly like about them and compliment them on it, talk about their interests only and, practically, act like a people pleaser all the time. It This book had a profound effect on me, however, of the negative variety.

It might sound like a harmless, or even attractive idea in theory, but choosing to apply it in your every day life can lead to dangerous results. I also sustained friendships with people who were self-centered, so talking about their interests was all we got to do together, which drained me of my energy.

The worst thing still, is that by trying to find something to like about every person, I completely disregarded their glaring faults. It didn't matter that those people did have redeeming qualities - they weren't redeeming enough!

I ended up with a bunch of friends I didn't really want and, because I was so preoccupied with "winning" those friendships I missed out on the chance to form relationships with good people.

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But that's really just me trying to find something positive using the "principles" in a book that I am still trying to UNlearn. If you want to win friends, you have to do it the hard way, by being yourself and risking rejection and daring to do some rejection of your own, as well.

And if you want to influence people the only fair way to do it is through honesty. All the rest is manipulation and pretending. This will harm you in the long run. Thank you for reading this review.The most successful leaders all have one thing in common: They've read How to Win Friends and Influence People.

How to win friends and influence

As a salesman at one point in his life, author Dale Carnegie made his sales territory the national leader for the firm he worked for. Everyone, and I mean everyone can learn something from How to Win Friends & Influence People.

The principles in the book are simple, but something a lot of us fail to use or remember.

How to win friends and influence

This book will help you to convince people to your way of thinking, avoid arguments and become more liked. If you're. How to Win Friends and Influence People not only provides readers with common sense applications but introduces new, forward thinking ideas.

Every principle provided in the book is explained, and proven with a multitude of examples/5(). 6. Handle complaints, avoid arguments, keep your human contacts smooth and pleasant. 7. Become a better speaker, a more entertaining conversationalist. How To Win Friends and Influence People - Kindle edition by Dale Carnegie.

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How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie